Hands Holding Light

Please Stop Ignoring Yourself

Yes you, sweetheart.  Stop ignoring yourself.  Every time you pretend to be happy when you are not, you are ignoring yourself.  Every time you pretend everything is okay when it is not, you are ignoring yourself.  Every time you give on up on a dream, tell yourself it doesn’t matter, you are ignoring yourself. When […]

Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say

Do you say what you mean and mean what you say?  Chances are, the answer is no.  It’s quite hard to be in 100% integrity and say only what you mean and mean what you say.  Plus, we think it sounds impolite.  I’m not referring to outright lies – that’s another post to come – […]

Thoughts That Used to Run My Life

Coaching is all about transformation. It’s seeing things from a new point-of-view. It’s letting go of beliefs that don’t serve you. It’s learning to dis-believe thoughts you might not even realize (or not want to admit) are running and perhaps ruining your life. It’s INCREDIBLE. This is a list of some of the thoughts that […]

The Door

We all have doors in front of us every day. Unopened. Leading us somewhere. Are you going through the door in front of you today? Is it a door you want to go through? Or one you believe you “have to” go through? What would your life be like if you just went through the […]

Ghost Ships

I’ve lived my life paralyzed by fear of making a wrong decision, choosing the wrong thing. And so I’ve let things go by that I regret. I don’t want to do that anymore. My think of my life like one ship in a flotilla. There are many other ships sailing past—some of which look a […]


Radical Self-Love

I am tired of being afraid. I know I will always have fears. But after 43 years of life, I am tired of letting my fear decide my life and make the decisions for me. As a scientist, I am going to run an experiment. For the next 365 days, I am going to make […]


What’s Holding You Hostage Right Now?

My guess is that something right now in your life is holding you hostage, keeping you from doing what you truly want to be doing. What is it? A job you don’t like? Money worries? Loneliness? An unhappy relationship? Family problems? We all have something, or many things, holding us hostage—keeping us stuck and unable […]

What Do You Want and Why Do You Want It?

What do you want? This is a great question to ask yourself regularly. It is something many folks never ask themselves, for reasons that include being “too busy” or afraid of the answer or maybe thinking that it doesn’t matter because they aren’t going to get it anyway. I ask coaching clients this all the […]